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How often in your life do you have to make a choice and are you aware of what and from what you choose? Sometimes the choice is obvious. Sometimes there are either too many unknowns, or the pros and cons are practically equivalent, or it is not clear what will happen in the case of "if ...".

There are several techniques to make this most notorious choice. We will consider choice with two options. If there are more options, then just sort through them in pairs. How to pair up is up to you, or we can talk about it next time, but for now let's look at ways to make a choice.

The first way is physical.

The significant thing here is to calm your mind and body. Sit up straight, with good support for the legs (it is better to remove the heels). Take a few calm breaths in and out. Feel the support you are sitting on. Close your eyes. Imagine that your body is a scale. Bend your arms in elbows and raise them in front of you at chest level, palms up, like a scale. Rock them back and forth in different directions, as if adjusting your scales, bringing them into balance. When a sense of balance and calm spreads throughout the body, we begin to make a choice. On one scale (palm) mentally put option #1. On the other bowl (palm) option #2. Feel the weight of one and the other option. Weigh them for a few minutes. Perform all actions with closed eyes and calm breathing. Let your body measure both options. When you feel that the scales have settled down, stopped fluctuating, slowly open your eyes and see which hand outweighs.

* This exercise can be done in pairs. Ask your partner to be just an observer, a witness to the choice made.

The second way is logical.

Take a blank piece of paper and a pen. You can also take colored pencils or markers. At the top of the sheet we write "Option #1.” We divide the sheet in half (it doesn’t matter horizontally or vertically, as you like). On one half we write out all the pluses (pros) of this option, on the other - all the minuses (cons). The essential thing here is not to write too little or too much. Minimum 5, maximum 20. Then we take the second sheet. We write on it "Option #2”. We also divide in half and prescribe all the pros and cons.

After that, we start comparing. This is where colored pencils and markers come in handy. We emphasize and highlight what is the most important and essential, compare them with each other. In especially advanced cases, you can add reframing. For example, the apartment is small (this is a minus), but very ergonomic (this is a plus, you can conveniently place things in easy accessibility) - I will often have to go on business trips (for someone it may be a minus), but in a year I will be able to buy an apartment (this is a plus). -- Such reframing allows you to expand your choices and see what and from what you choose, as well as reveal your inner values.

The third way is metaphorical.

It can be viewed in different ways. As a rule, I turn to this option when there is one offer and it is not entirely clear whether it is worth choosing or there is another way. In this case, any metaphorical cards or Tarot come to the rescue. Just today, I carried out such an alignment for myself on the recommendation of Elizaveta Kotaeva, a certified Tarot master and teacher. The alignment is called "Choice" and the description of the layout is presented in the book “The Crowley Tarot: the handbooks to the cards" (Akron & Hajo Banzhaf).

It consists of seven cards, one of which - the most important - is the significator (what this choice is about for you) and then we lay out two roads in each of three cards. One road is what will happen if you make this choice (here you can see both the reason why it is worth making this choice, the development, and outcomes of the choice). The second road is what will happen if you do not make this choice (here you can also look at the reason why this choice is not made and what it will lead to).

At the end, you can count the quintessence of the dropped cards to also see what the whole situation is about for you (you can also look at the quintessence of each specific path). As they say, it is up to you how deeply you want to look and analyze this choice.

What I like about the third method is that it includes the previous two. On the one hand, it has a lot of the intuitive, the unconscious, the metaphorical. On the other hand, it is very logical and analytical, especially when you consider the meaning of each card, how they are interconnected and what is in them for you. There is simply freedom for creativity and a deep analysis of the situation.

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